20 August 2015

5 Things I Learned in My First Year of Marriage

Miel and Mint blog - Wedding of Nadia and Thomas
What God has joined together, let not man separate. {Matthew 19:6} 

This post is very special for me to write since last week we celebrated our First Anniversary. One thing I have to say right off the bat - it is not going to be a generic post about all the must-do's or these broad and vague pieces of advice on marriage. This is my genuine and personal experience I would like to share with you.

1. Love grows.
You think/know/feel you love that special someone. That's beautiful! What absolutely has blown my mind about my husband and myself in our first year of being married is that love has grown, grows and it keeps on growing. Your heart just explodes with love for your significant other, and when you think you couldn't possibly love them more, you break that self-set "limit" over and over again.
2. His character.
Dating is exciting! All those butterflies fluttering away in your stomach as you get ready in front of the mirror trying on one outfit after another. Sweaty palms when you see him and talk to him. Late nights chatting away wishing sunshine doesn't break it off and you wouldn't have to think about having to go, getting ready for school/work and storing those butterflies for later. Well, it gets better! When you marry the love of your life, you get so much more than flutters, you get to know (really get to know!) your best friend. I have learned million amazing things about my husband after we got married. Not just the things he told me but things he is constantly showing and proving with his behaviour. I am truly blessed.
3. I can cook!
Any of my friends or family would tell you that I have always claimed that number one thing I am terrible at is *drumroll* cooking. I never cooked (well, very seldom). I never enjoyed making food or trying out new recipes, let alone spent more than 10 minutes in my kitchen. However, I made a groundbreaking discovery after I got married - I can make edible meals (honestly, they taste great!) and, what is even better, my husband really loves my cooking! I will sum it up like this: imagine a man walking on the moon - yes, that equivalent of an achievement. 
4. Marriage is an empty box (which you fill together).
I think the author of that statement is Unknown. Though I completely support the meaning behind it and I have understood it from my own experience. A lot of people believe (including some of my dear friends) that when they get married, they will get and find everything they've been looking for, all nice and ready for them to take out of this gorgeous imaginary box a marriage represents: love, friendship, understanding, comfort, future... list goes on. Nevertheless, you start off with an empty box which you and your spouse fill together - with love, friendship, understanding, comfort, future and anything else you put into it. Building the relationship together and investing all of you into it, will provide you with the "box" full of beautiful things.
5. I am having the most fun I've ever had in my entire life.

If you asked a 16-year old me what I thought about marriage/married couples, I would probably tell you that they are sitting on the sofa wearing sweatpants and being bored out of their minds. Haha silly teenage me! I have traveled to numerous corners of the world, been to the most amazing parties, spent the best-time-ever with my friends and family... had the time of my life, as someone could say. All of that - pre-marriage. And then... you get married and it hits you - WOW, all of that before was awesome, but NOW I am having the best time of my life! :) I honestly have never had so much fun as I am having being my husband's wife. We travel the world together (sharing those feelings can't compare to anything else), we have I've-laughed-too-much sore tummies when we hang out with friends and we enjoy each other's company more than anything. I thought I smiled a lot before :)

There are definitely over 100 more things (more like thousand) I could mention in this post but that could come up to a book :) All I want to say is marry someone you know you can't wait to fill that "box" with. Be strong together, grow in love together and have fun together. 

Miel and Mint blog - Wedding of Nadia and Thomas
I have found the one whom my soul loves. {Song of Solomon 3:4} 
Thank you so much for reading this personal little post about my own experience. It is a special one for me. I loved sharing it with you. Leave a comment about what your marriage has taught you or what you hope it will, once you get married, or simply share a little kind thought. 
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33 comments

  1. you have a gawjus blog here !!! had a good read :D great post :)

    would love a comment on my new video https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=E3m5pQMJoLc

    have a wonderful day :)

    Jade

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  2. Aww thanks Jade :) Glad you enjoyed this post & like my blog.
    Will defo check out your video. I am contemplating starting my own channel for a while now, just need a bit of courage lol :)
    Hope you enjoy your weekend!
    xox

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  3. Love this post! Such a great reflection on marriage. Your photos are amazing, and you look so very beautiful! I simply love your blog!

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  4. Thanks so much, Kristi, for such a kind comment. I am glad you love my blog, means so much! :)
    xox

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  5. omg! i'm so happy for you. getting married very young is a tough choice but if there is true love then there is no problem at all(:
    thank you for being so nice over my blog.
    and also you look stunning in that dress, great choice!

    xx from Italy
    Cate ღ kate/idoscope | youtube

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    1. Thanks so much for your lovely comment, Cate :)
      Honestly, I am so flattered you said "getting married young" lol ;)
      Thank you for being so kind. And you have no idea how much I was/am in love with that dress (custom-made baby of mine lol) <3
      xox

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  6. This is such an adorable post :) I can't wait to experience things when my own husband one day!

    Natalie Ann xo // Petal Poppet Blogs ♥

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    1. Thanks, Natalie Ann, I am sure you will :)
      Being married to your best friend is an amazing thing <3
      Thanks so much for your sweet comment.
      xox

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  7. Wow I am in love with your pictures! thanks for sharing this is an amazing post! Do you want to support each other's blog by following each other?:) Please let me know if you do so I can follow you right back x

    kisses

    http://www.theclosetelf.com/

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    1. Thanks for your kind comment, Hilary! I will check out your blog & will follow your updates no prob.
      xox

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  8. Beautiful post! Thanks so much for visiting our blog, will return the following favor ☺

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  9. this is so sweet! <3 have a great years of marriage ahead! xx

    Marisa

    summersnackies.blogspot.com

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  10. I enjoyed reading this. :) So sweet!

    xoxoBella | http://xoxobella.com

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  11. This is so sweet, I love to see marriage praised in this day and age and happy 1st anniversary! My hubby and I will celebrate our 4th this year and as long as you both work at it, it gets better and better! I absolutely loved reading this! XO -Kim
    www.thethirtysomethinglife.com

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    1. Awww thanks Kim! Marriage is so special and definitely something we both entered knowing it is once and forever. Will make sure to say Happy 4th Anniversary to you - post about it :) Thanks again for a lovely comment.
      xox

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  12. This is such a cute post. I hope one day if I get married I'll suddenly gain the ability to cook too (because I'm currently terrible at it right now!!)

    ♡ Emily from Trendpill x

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    1. Thanks, Emily :)
      I never though I would be cooking haha - so yeah, you never know girlie ;)
      xox

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  13. "Marriage is an empty box (which you fill together)." - I've never heard it but it seems so true. :-)

    PS. I've just read you are Ukrainian. If you like, you can write in your language on my blog. I don't speak Ukrainian, but I understand it. I used to study with Ukrainians. :-)

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    1. Yay, I will try :)
      Just so used to writing/speaking English but need to keep practicing my Ukrainian lol
      xox

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  14. Happy Anniversary to you and your husband! It's lovely to hear that you're having the best time of your life and the love you two have for each other is growing more each day. I'll keep in mind the 'empty box' quote because it's so true. I love your dress so much! <3 Hoping you could share a few more wedding photos because they're always beautiful to see (if you don't mind HAHA)

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    1. Aww thanks, Marie, really appreciate your kindness! Will definitely share more pics - I have an idea about a blog post related to wedding :)
      xox

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  15. Hey Nadia,

    such a cute post ♥ It´s so beautiful to read that there is still someone out there who really enjoys to be married.
    I hope one day I will also look back and can smile like you do now! :)

    Have a wonderful sunday,
    Rosy ♥

    PS: Sorry for my bad English :/ :D

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    1. Thanks, Rosy! I am sure you will, girlie. Things work out and remember:
      the best is yet to come (my fave quote) :)
      Thanks so much for your comment & your Eng is great!
      xox

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  16. Beautiful Pictures! Congrats on one year of marriage! thebhardwajlife.blogspot.in

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    1. Awww thank you so much, girlie! :)
      xox

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  17. Okay, so I have tried this three times already and it didn't post :( So I'm going to try again.
    Congratulations on your first wedding anniversay. I loved the pictures and you look gorgeous :)
    I love how you said marry someone you can't wait to fit in the box with. I love it soo much and I will always remember it because it's true. Thank you for writing such a beautiful post.
    Ramsha | Rose
    xxx

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    1. Thank you so so much, Rose! :) You are so sweet and thank you soooo much for trying a number of times to post this lovely comment! <3
      xox

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    2. Thank you so so much, Rose! :) You are so sweet and thank you soooo much for trying a number of times to post this lovely comment! <3
      xox

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  18. So true what you write here! That's the first thing my dad in-law said to us: What God has brought together, a man cannot separate. I'm getting married to my best friend next year and I'm so excited! Although engagement is awesome too :)

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    1. Aww that's so lovely, hon! He spoke well. I am very excited for you, girlie!!
      xox

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