24 March 2017

When Life Gives You Lemons... or How To Stay Positive X Kurt Geiger

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I am usually a pretty positive person. I always manage to find a way to see the sunshine through dark and heavy clouds (after the initial shock of being given "lemons" wears off). At the same time, I've always been a bit of a worrier. I mean, it's kind of a given since life can sometimes get unpredictable and it might not reflect what we want. But, thankfully, it perfectly reflects what God wants, and that's enough

So when lovely people from Kurt Geiger* got in touch with me about their spankin' gorgeous new spring bag collection, I was doing the happy dance but also - I had no idea what the theme of this post was going to be. It's not my cup of tea to share fashion photos and write 1000+ words dedicated to an outfit. I am wordy as you know but not that wordy. I wanted this article to be aesthetically pleasing AND helpful for those of you who need a little pick-me-up and got a bowl full of "lemons". I'm sure you got water and sugar at home, so let's make some lemonade and gush over this beauty of this bag together because #itssopretty
What to do when life gives you lemons or How to stay positive
If you have seen my updates on social media, specifically this post here, you might know what's been happening and what "lemons" were thrown into my imaginary fruit basket. As you might remember, we had to move last year because our previous landlord was selling the house. Well, when hubby and I found this new place, there was one thing we needed the guarantee on - that we would be able to stay for as long as WE want. This property was an investment so the landlord was happy to promise that. 

To make a long story short, yesterday, 9 months after we moved in, we were told he wanted to sell. You might think, 'Girl, it stinks but you'll find somewhere, it's no big deal'. You'd be right but this is slightly bigger than just "having to move", and I will make sure to shed light on what I mean at a later stage. My initial reaction was a complete shock because a) there's enough happening, b) we love the location and c) the sheer thought of being back on Right Move and Zoopla every day looking for an ideal place was making me anxious. Thankfully, a few hours later I was fine. I got lots of cuddles. I prayed. I thought about how thankful I am that both my dad and I are feeling better. Yes, it is not the most convenient time and things are going not exactly in the most ideal direction (or one might think so), there's so much to be thankful for and so much to look forward to
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These sour stinkers aka "lemons" might come in different shapes and forms. Work related: not being able to find a job for a while (but having someone to "lean on" financially: parents, significant other, friend) or hating to go to work every day and dreaming to change it. Personal: getting cheated on or dumped (when you're at an early dating stage), being back-stabbed by a "friend" or getting "hate" because people are jealous. Miscellaneous: off the top of my head - having to move out and look for a new place to live. You get an idea. These are all, without a doubt, awful situations that can punch you pretty hard BUT there is a way out. There is a solution (even when you don't see at first).

So if you're having a lousy day and struggling with your "lemons", this post is just for you. 

As for me, I am OK with my bowl of "lemons".
Because I have metaphorical water and sugar to make lemonade :)

So what to do...
What to do when life gives you lemons
1. Breathe. 
The initial reaction to "lemons" is, more often than not, a shock. That's why, the first thing you need to do is try not to panic even if your whole being screams "MAY DAY". Breathe, meditate, pray, speak to someone you can trust and rely on. If you need to cry, ball your eyes out. But don't panic. If it's a "lemon", it's resolvable. Remember to keep that in mind.
2. Relax.
This is a huge priority either before or after the panic mode rolls in. If there's no rush with the decision, before you start thinking how to deal with the problem, try to pause the gushing waterfall of thoughts by doing something you love. Indulge in something that relaxes you the best to take your mind off it all. It might be a bubble bath, a favourite TV show, a new book, reading blogs or a date night. 
3. Evaluate.
Whether we want it that way or not, we always FEEL first. No matter what life throws at you, first you react with emotions. My hubby is genuinely one of those "superhumans" who keeps calm when I'm ready to go into a freak-out mode. It takes some practice, self-control and, most importantly, trust in order to reach that stage. But it's possible. Evaluate how serious/awful/impactful the situation is. If you have a potentially resolvable issue on your hands, then it's just a "lemon". You can handle it. This too shall pass. 
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4. Plan.
The great thing is each "lemon"-like problem has a solution. After you did your evaluation and calculated the impact, it's time to build the 'Victory Plan'. Think about your options and decide when and how you can start doing things to solve the problem. For example, if you're desperately looking for a job and failing time after time, there are a few things you can add to your to-do list: 1) re-do your CV, 2) register with the leading job-seeking sites on the market, 3) update your Linked In profile, 4) ask professionals in your field for advice, 5) let everyone know you're on the hunt - you never know what connection might come out of it, 6) reach out to recruiters in your area, etc. Sometimes things don't go as planned. It's OK, it's just not your door.  
5. Control.
I usually don't deal well with the circumstances where I have zero or very little control. I am sure I'm not alone. But hear me out. The main point at this stage is to take control over what you CAN control. It's easy to cry and whine about a situation, and we all need to do that from time to time. But it's crucial to understand to stop talking and do your part where you can. There are cases where all you can do is trust and wait. God always has a much better plan comparing to your "Best Plan Ever".
6. Re-evaluate. 
One of my favourite quotes is "Just when the caterpillar thought the world was over, it became a butterfly". I think, it pretty much answers all the questions that might be rushing through your mind 100 mph. Simply the fact that you can breathe can carry you through anything. Take a second look at your "lemon" and re-evaluate it. The challenge you're facing might be that turning point which is about to open incredible opportunities. 
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7. Appreciate.
If you haven't got a gratitude journal or at least a little page in your planner/bullet journal/to-do list notebook, I couldn't recommend it enough. Start one today. No matter what "lemons" you're dealing with, list the things you're thankful for: small and big. I highly suggest writing 'I woke up today' as your number one every day. It puts everything into perspective. Parent's hug. Spontaneous reason for laughter. Bright and sunny day. There is so much to be grateful for! Once you see, read through and list your blessings every single day, consider that perfectly tasty "lemonade" (= solution to a problem & end of the struggle) 50% done. We are so blessed daily. 
8. Learn.
The fact that hubby and I were in the exact same position with accommodation last year, we have learnt many things from the previous experience which will definitely come in handy now. We know the city a lot better and what areas we like, we know exactly what kind of property we are looking for and what to do to find it. The let-down from 2016 prepped us for success in 2017. Take each "lemon" as a learning experience which is there to make you stronger, wiser and better than ever. 
9. Smile.
Our attitude can easily turn anything into a "sink or swim" situation. So rather than beating yourself up, decide what you can do, what you can control and move on. It might sound trivial but try to look on the bright side. Surround yourself with like-minded, optimistic, supportive and happy people. Be positive. Happiness is always a choice. It's not "give out" in a limited amount. Most importantly, remember that the change is inevitable, and things will pick up sooner than you think.
This verse became such a valuable reminder:
"For the joy of the Lord is your strength" {Nehemiah 8:10}
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Top - ZARA / Jeans - Stradivarius / Shoes - ASOS / Sunnies - Ray Ban / Bracelet - Pandora

My other FASHION & ADVICE POSTS you might like:
7 WAYS TO RELAX OR WHAT TO DO ON A LAZY DAY FT. JACK WILLS
HOW TO OVERCOME FOMO: 7 STEPS THAT ACTUALLY WORK
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Leave a comment and let me know if you have enjoyed this post, lovelies.
Are there any "lemons" in your life right now?
If yes, how are you making the "lemonade"?
Sending hugs, positive vibes & love.
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